Stepping Out of Your Past to Create a Good Life

“Biography does not equal destiny.” Tony Robbins

What a great line, a great concept.  When we believe our past shapes our future, we’re missing the boat of life.   Yes, it may explain things and provide understanding but ‘using’ the past as a reason why things can’t be better, or accepting the way things are because of …..as that finger points back in the blame game mode, only continues to keep us entrenched in our victim mode of apparatus.

If this were the case, that our biography creates our life, then why are there so many poor little rich people – people who’ve come out of homes with seemingly everything who end up in rehab – addicted, depressed, suicidal?

And why are there those who’ve had rough childhoods – be it poor, abusive, ill – and they rise above their difficult past and create empowering and successful lives? Oprah, Dave Pelzer, Jim Carrey to name but a few.

There’s obviously something beyond our biography, beyond our conditions that bring us to a better place.   And that’s the decisions we make each step of the way.    Yes, there are also innate qualities of resilience that we have which certainly help us forge ahead and carry us above and beyond our misfortunes.  And we can certainly build and develop those resiliency characteristics.  But we must also take an active role in carving out the life we want to have and not resign ourselves to doom and gloom because of that big nail sticking out known as the Past.

We have to meet it, dance with it and then part ways and move on to some new steps.

How do we engage in those new steps?

1. Understand from whence you come.

2. Get to know what you like, what moves you, what interests you.

3. Dream and envision possibilities.

4. Give yourself permission to step forward.

5. Begin to take responsibility for your life.

6. Put that pointer finger towards yourself and take stock – what do I want, how do I want to live my life.

7. Decide you’re worth it.

8. Decide each and every step of the way.

9. Focus on your strengths.

10. Revel in your new dancing shoes for they will help you plant your feet in some new places.

Rebuild Your Life with joy, meaning and satisfaction.  And don’t forget to add in a huge dose of Fun.

Need help taking those steps?  Call on me to help you practice your new dance routine.  We can make it fun.